Study: 38.7% of children are subjected to emotional abuse with the words "stupid, lazy, and ugly." Psychological and legal counselors warn the community about words that turn children into sick and aggressive people, fears that bad words turn children into sick and aggressive people (Photo: Atheer Al-Sada) Dammam: Sami Al-Ali A Saudi study revealed Hadith, 38.7 percent of children who are emotionally abused by some words such as: stupid, lazy, ugly.
The field study prepared by Dr. Ali Al-Zahrani at the Faculty of Medicine at Taif University, and lasted for three months, showed that about 38.7 percent of children in the community are exposed to emotional abuse by the social environment in which they live, in terms of society describing them with some bad words such as, stupid Sloth, ugly, that insults children and influences their feelings for the worse.
In his interview with Asharq Al-Awsat, Al-Zahrani explained that the study sample included 800 males and females, from over 18 years old, as the percentage of males who were studied in the study reached 66 per cent, and that most children who are exposed to these words are between the ages of 10 and 15 years, which is what It is called the stage of adolescence in humans.
The study showed that fathers come first in terms of child abuse, while older male brothers come second, followed by relatives, then mothers, and then teachers and colleagues.
Al-Zahrani pointed out that the most dangerous thing children are exposed to as a result of these words is psychological disorders that remain with a person even in old age, and which parents are usually oblivious to the causes of these disorders and diseases, which include low self-esteem, impulsivity, aggression, anxiety and depression.
The study showed that people who were less than 30 years old were 21.9% less likely to emotionally abuse, because children grew up in a society and generation that differed in terms of learning and awareness from their predecessors, while those over 30 years old were more vulnerable to abuse. Al-Masharyi, 37.5%.
Al-Zahrani returns this by saying, "The current generation of society is more aware and educated than its predecessor, as well as the transition of societies and generations from one stage to another, which has become more aware of the dangers of using profanity on children."
A member of the National Society for Human Rights, Dr. Suhaila Zain Al-Abidin, says that the National Society for Human Rights has received a number of women and children complaining about verbal violence, whether from the father, husband or even relatives, as the society’s latest statistics for the past year showed that the percentage of physical and psychological violence For women and children, about 36.5% in Saudi Arabia, in contrast, accusation and slander were about 5.6%. Zine El Abidine indicated that there is a study on verbal abuse of children, which has not been completed.
Dr. Jamal Salem Al-Tuwairqi, a consultant for children and adolescents at the National Guard Hospital in Riyadh, believes that repeating words such as ugly, foolish or lazy, on a child may frustrate him, and that he is a failed person who does not deserve to live or live, and the child is complicated in his social life, preventing him from Going to school and mixing with others from his peers, and this foreshadows that the child will seriously harm himself, including suicide, and this is usually rare.
Al-Tuwairqi added that the bad words that are given to children usually are not aware of the parents or the social environment, their psychological and behavioral effects on the child, as a result of their repetition, which may turn the child into an aggressive revenge on his schoolmates or his brothers at home, and this feeling grows with the child According to the word that calls him, and to whom he thinks it applies, what limits his abilities, which he cannot get rid of, and sees it as a stain on him.
Al-Tuwairqi added that most of the bad words that children are exposed to are usually from the school environment, due to the lack of understanding and awareness of the dangers of bad words and titles among children who call them themselves, as well as those issued by teachers towards children, and Talib Al-Tuwairqi called the Ministry of Education to develop psychological educational curricula. In the elementary and middle school levels, indicating the importance of psychology for students of these two stages.
Dr. Abdul-Samad Al-Jishi, a consultant psychiatrist for children and adolescents at Aramco Hospital, says that bad words such as stupid, lazy and ugly have their negative effects. In the direction of these words that affect his feelings, Al-Jishi adds, these words affect his social relations, his ability to deal with others, as well as his self-confidence, and his view of society. And Al-Jishi said that children are affected by relatives greatly, which starts with parents and brothers, then teachers, because the child at this stage feels safe within the family, which must protect him and make him feel that he is safe and stable within it, indicating that the child who is outside the family , He will be insecure in it, and this will affect him more, explaining that the child in this case, may develop social phobia, which is his inability to confront others, and suffer fits of anxiety about doing work within society, and his inability to speak or express properly. .
Al-Jishi said that the child must be motivated by words that make him feel capable of undertaking and accomplishing tasks, and that he is an intelligent person, as well as encouraging him to rely on himself, and not hunt mistakes against him, which makes him feel frustrated, indicating that this negative behavior of words is the result of a social environment, do not differentiate Between children''s differences in thinking, mental ability and level of intelligence.
