second marriage

Dr. Muhammad Al-Hamid (Dubai - mbc.net) two specialists, one psychological and the other, a social one, warned of some negatives that divorced people fall into and lead to the failure of their second marriage, and they stressed that avoiding these caveats will increase the chances of the success of this marriage, especially with regard to raising children. Dr. said. Raed Mohsen - a specialist in marital and family counseling - during his hosting of the program "Kalam Nawaem" Sunday December 4, 2011 - The second marriage decision is sometimes taken hastily in order for the divorced to prove that they are desirable, confirming that one of the parties to the second marriage in this case is Victim of the other.

As for Dr. Muhammad Al-Hamid - a consultant in psychology - said that every relationship is subject to failure, but the disadvantage is that the failure continues, and he did not mind repeating the marriage experiment two or three times, as long as the relationship did not succeed.

Raed and Al-Hamed warned of some things that must be taken into account in order to increase the likelihood of the success of the second marriage:

Not to be rushed

Many divorced people rush to the second marriage decision in order to prove to their families and the families of their ex-husbands that they are desirable, and there are in some cases if the woman''s chances in the second marriage are low, her time can accept the marriage in an immature way, and if the second marriage is built on this basis, the chances of its success Decrease.

Close your old wounds

The first marriage often ends, leaving behind wounds and psychological pain, and if one of the parties marries in order to escape from those wounds, the other party will be a victim of the wronged, and the marriage is unhealthy, because the choice itself is not based on solid foundations.

Agreement to take care of the children

When choosing to go through the experience of the second marriage and one or both parties have children, it is necessary to agree on how to communicate with the purpose of taking care of them or communicating with them, and the father and mother are required to take into account the interests of their children in the first place, and failure to agree on this issue may major problems after marriage.

Wisdom

The idea of ​​marriage is supposed from the beginning to be taken from a preventive side, and the two parties must aim for stability and a relationship of kinship, so the decision-making must be on a mental basis, and this is what makes the two parties benefit from their previous mistakes and not repeat them again.

Harmony

The study of each of the parties to the second marriage is very important in order to ensure that there is an understanding and harmony between them, and if necessary, they can present themselves to a psychologist before marriage, or even after marriage if any dispute occurs between them, as studies confirm that most divorce cases occur as a result of a simple defect in a

Relationship.

See the negatives and positives

If the proverb says, "Your lover swallows slough for you," then this proverb does not work, because the relationship must be based on balance in seeing the negatives and positives, and a straight relationship cannot be established if one of the parties sees the other''s positive and overlooks his negatives and vice versa.

Modern marriage mechanisms

In the past, most of the marriages were through "salons", but today the situation is different with the revolution in communications and the Internet. Therefore, the mechanisms of marriage must be compatible with the mechanisms of the modern age, considering the difference of cultures from one society to another.