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Dr. Samira Ali Al-Ghamdi revealed the steps that help prepare children before divorce. Explaining that “if there is difficulty in applying them Do not be shy to consult a professional.
Al-Ghamdi said: There is no difference that it is better for a child to live with his parents, provided that his family life is happy and free from violence and neglect, but it happens that his parents do not get along emotionally with each other, and violence prevails in their relationship. This causes unhappiness for all family members Therefore, divorce here becomes the best solution, and the best for the psychological state of children. To keep them away from the state of anxiety and domestic violence in which they live.
And Al-Ghamdi indicated that making the decision to divorce is not an easy matter, and it may cause a lot of stress and anxiety for the owner and the other party, and it will reflect negatively on the children. Therefore, they must be prepared for this, provided that this preparation begins with the spouses first They may need some time to adapt to the idea of separation and its implications for them and the family in general, and if one of them makes the decision, it is expected that the other will reject it. This results in anger and pain response.
She added: “It is assumed that sufficient time is given for the two parties to accept the matter and live with it, and they may need to seek the help of a competent person to help them cope with the matter. That is, they adapt and control their anxiety before passing on the matter to their children. Their psychological state and strength will help their children to accept the matter, and most likely you will find one party angry more than the other. Therefore, it must be contained and endured until it surpasses the stage of anger in order not to affect children. ”
Al-Ghamdi said: Only the two partners should make the decision and discuss it. The involvement of their families may complicate the matter Therefore, it is better to resort to a neutral party, and after the spouses are ready for that, they must agree on a certain mechanism to inform their children about the matter, and it is preferable that they be together, and that the decision be made in a transparent and simplified manner according to the age of the children, provided that they explain this without rebuking or offending one of the parents On the contrary, you should show respect, and not ask children to take either side.
And she continued: “Parents must also show a lot of love and promise to continue caring and caring for them like before, and that they will remain close to them for life, and some children may show feelings of anger, sadness and slight depression, and this is normal, and here they must be urged to express their feelings transparently, and from It is necessary to explain to them that the divorce decision has nothing to do with it To spare them the feeling of guilt.
Al-Ghamdi concluded her speech by saying: It is better after the divorce, to establish an organized routine in the visit between parents, and not to deprive the children if they ask to see one of them who did so, bearing in mind that one of the parties may sometimes feel anger and desire revenge from the other party. So make sure that your children will be the first line and will be exposed to the effects of your revenge.
