Generational conflict usually begins in the adolescence stage, as adolescence is a stage of human life, extending from the age of thirteen until the age of eighteen, and may extend to the age of twenty.

Thus, the psychologist for children and adolescents at the Psychiatric Hospital in Al-Ahsa, Dr. Fatima Abdul-Latif Al-Muhaish, began the dialogue that she conducted with her (today) to shed light on an issue and a human obsession as long as families of all classes suffered from it, which is the generational conflict and this dialogue ...

How would you describe the stage of adolescence and the feeling of a teenager between the ages of thirteen to twenty?

It is a stage characterized by revolution, rebellion, anxiety and conflict, so the teenager wants to get out of a childhood that he has only partially left, as well as clings to manhood who only possesses some of its features and characteristics and there may be something of deviation and error that may occur from the young man, due to the weakness of his control over himself in many times And because he does not possess a sufficient degree of experience, maturity and rationality, and because of the difference of views between what is old and what is modern.

@ Is it true that a teenager is in a period closer to rebellion and out of the control of parents?

In fact, this is true, and there is a rebellion towards parents, and another rebellion directed at school officials, and there are many rapid changes that occur on the various aspects of the teenager’s personality, and these changes are due to their speed in which dealers with the teenager expect something confusing, where they find a kind of The difficulty in understanding and understanding him, so they treat him harshly, and put on him the restrictions that they put on young children, ignoring the new changes that have occurred in his personality, which push him towards liberation and independence, and we often saw teenagers going through the adolescence stage without losing their balance, or causing any problems to anyone because of education The good and courteous treatment they receive.

@ What is the most important characteristic of a teenager in his adult stage, and what are the psychological aspects that occur to him?

In fact, the adolescent is distinguished by the tenderness of feeling, as he often revolts for the trivial reasons, and some adolescents are exposed to states of despair, despair, sadness and psychological pain as a result of his personal confusion about the growth outburst in which he found himself, and at this stage some personal emotions are formed that turn back towards oneself, Such as self-esteem and taking care of clothes and the manner of speaking, where the teenager begins to feel that he is no longer that child who does what is ordered, without expressing an opinion and the right to debate, while the parents still look at him as he must be convinced of their opinion without rebellion.

@ Do parents realize that a teenager''s behavior is normal if it is this way?

Parents'' experience with these matters makes them realize that much of what they denounce from the behavior of their teenage children is a natural matter imposed by the nature of the stage, when the stage of adolescence begins, when the teenager shows an urgent need to belong to a group, especially when he encounters some pressure and tension from his parents, while he is pressing His social surroundings by insisting implicit attitudes on his actions and not objecting to them and he always searches for a narrow group to which he belongs, and refers to them, where he sees in them the most appropriate social model for his age and status and sees that in their opinions and behaviors, they provide him with hidden support and a strong demonstration in his position towards the authority of his parents or the school.

@ What is observed about the adolescent''s social behavior?

A strong desire for him to have a recognized position among members of his family, his group, the children of his school and his neighborhood, and in order for him to be recognized, he always tends to do work that draws attention to him, so he may wear modern-style sewn clothes, and he sees them as something necessary, and he may strive to Acknowledging him by involving himself in discussions that are above his level, and he may argue about matters that may be far from his experiences and knowledge, and the teenager may find that the best way to establish his social position is to provide some services and reforms at home and he becomes stressed and frustrated if not welcomed With these services, this is interpreted as a breakdown of his genius, and he notes on the behavior of the teenager his tendency to liberation and his desire to resist any authority exercised over him, as he dreams of finding himself in a world outside his home environment, a world full of friends and colleagues, freedom, independence and getting rid of child dependence, and he finds in front of him the family The school has two obstacles to that, and that is why he revolts, protests, gets angry and threatens to run away from home or find work and leave the family.

Who is your teen most likely to object to?

His objection is often to the behavior of parents, relatives, teachers, and the general situation of society. He objects to the parents ’clothes, home furniture, or teachers’ way of speaking and explaining. Because of his lack of experience, he takes some appearances and things as models that he admires, and he wants others to admire and imitate them.

What is the real problem facing educators about the teenager?

Our problem with educators is that we often find ourselves unable to keep pace with the rapid changes that are occurring in the personalities of our children, so we treat them as children unable to manage their affairs, just as we misunderstand them at times, so we think that they are hostile to us, or that they have lost their loyalty to their families and are looking for Total independence from us.

So what are the effective means to rid the teenager of the scourges of rebellion and frustration? There are many means by which we can meet the teenager''s need for independence and protect him accordingly from the scourges of rebellion and frustration, and among those means allocating a monthly sum for his personal expenses, giving him the freedom to choose his clothes and buy them within the framework of the reasonable and well-known, in addition to assigning him to buy some of the needs of the house, what is important for the teenager to feel that we are Realized of the new abilities that he acquired, and to feel that our confidence in him increases as he approaches his manhood.

How to deal with a teenager?

Balance in treatment is the preponderant way with adolescents, and it is a basic requirement in matters of education and it is noticeable that some parents deal with their teenage son with the utmost cruelty and view him as a source of unending evils, and that it causes him embarrassment and shame as some of them tolerate their teenage children to the point of neglect and do not know Something about their relationships or their friends, which leads to the teenager falling into tragic problems, and rightness lies in the space between these models, assertiveness in lack of intensity, tolerance without negligence, and confidence without excessive